I gave Andy a task today. I asked him to give some thought to what he needs in a relationship. He has never voiced any of his needs, only his wants and dreams and lots of beautiful imaginary visions of us together. Which is wonderful, but...
Lately I have wondered if he really knows what he wants out of a relationship, or if he ever gives it any thought. So I asked him to get back to me on it. And I told him I'd do the same for him. At the very least it will help speed up this getting-to-know-you stage.
All day long I've been trying to encapsulate what it is that I want in a partner into a few simple words. Not so easy. But I'll give it a whirl here in blogland.
What I need in a partner:
- someone who can go deep with me - emotionally, mentally, spiritually - and challenge me
- someone who has a genuine interest in finding out who I really am
- honesty with a constant desire to keep it real between us
- to be adored
- a protector - stick up for me, hold me during scary movies, give me a kidney, whatever
- a kind, open-minded, upbeat, non-judgmental person
- a great lover who can be sweet, strong and an insatiable animal all in the same night
- someone who loves to touch me
- respectful of me and others
- loyal and dedicated to family, and to me
- someone who has had children
- accepting of my children
- non-smoker, in fact, not addicted to anything except me
- trusting enough to open up to me
- a confident man, but humble and imperfect
- dependable and responsible
- good sense of humor!
- healthy lifestyle
- someone with passion and a purpose
- someone I can learn from and grow with
And here are a few things that are extremely nice to have in a partner:
- good to look at
- common interests
- quality time together
- unjaded, able to love and trust freely
- money
- living close, or better yet, together
- someone as clean as I am
- intelligence
- patience
- a handy guy who will look out for me and my car/furnace/plumbing
- someone with good taste
- great communicator
- someone who knows me better than I know myself
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